Every morning that we have the Blessed opportunity of waking up we are also given the opportunity to make our first of many decisions throughout the day. As we wipe the sand out of our eyes we have the choice of hitting the snooze button or waking up to be at work on time, from picking out what color to wear to deciding whether to eat a pop tart or an egg white, to texting the ex boyfriend even though you know he will break your heart again, to finishing that email of your resignation to your disrespectful boss, to take the shortcut to work even though you know it’s the more dangerous route, and the list goes on and on but whether it is a simple decision like how you want your coffee at Starbucks to deciding whether or not to quit your job we all have decisions throughout our day that could affect our lives big or small. On The Daily we all have the power to make our own choices and take Control of our lives but we never think that the little decisions could affect our lives in a great magnitude. Hell when I’m ordering my iced mocha frapa capa frente sweet Thang from whatever coffee shop I never think that if I do this over a Year’s period of time I could develop diabetes or gain 15 pounds but that is just a small decision that could surmount into a lifelong complications. I’m not rambling I’m just setting a certain scenario for you that little tiny decisions we make such as our coffee choices could add up or for that matter spiral down to make our lives suffer in the long run.
As a competitor every day I have to wake up with a mindset of to do. There’s no excuses that can be made, it’s just not in our DNA. As athlete we need to wake up with a go-getter attitude, put on blinders on and just do what needs to be done to accomplish the goal at hand. All of our actions need to be in tune with what we are trying to achieve and how the everyday operations will add up to our future when it’s not a question of if but more it will. For some that pressure can be too much and the stress of it makes some act out or cave in because they aren’t strong enough to hold that merit. But then there are others who are not only born with the ability but God has given them enough obstacles in life to be able to drive past the restaurant that has the food they’re craving or wake up on a day they’re not feeling good to get in their fasted cardio or saying no to peer pressure when they are called a pussy for staying in to be able to lift early the following morning. Anyone literally anyone can make the decision to step up on stage or try to be in a body builders life but only time will tell if they have the potential to live the life I live every single day. It’s not easy and I’m going to tell you right now it’s a lifestyle not a six-month venture and anyone who’s been doing this and taking it seriously for a short amount of time can sniff out when someone really wants it or someone is acting like they really want it.
Friday night I sat in my parked car and stared at an open sign for over in half an hour, fiddling with my wallet and credit card debating whether to walk in and give up everything that I’ve been working towards because of where my life stands currently. As I flipped the plastic around in my calloused hands, I debated back and forth whether all of this was worth continuing. Even though I love what I do over the past few weeks my life has changed greatly and with all that is come a lot of emotion has, brinking on the wave of making me insane. Nothing seemed to be curing my pain and considering the fact that I have really bad communication skills when it comes to reaching out for help, I felt weak with doubt. I know that with all God has given me I’m the farthest from that but for the first time in almost 2.5 years I wanted to turn to alcohol to release my pain. As the neon signs glared into the darkness of my car interior a million thoughts swam around my head… my heart pained from all the commotion that I had suffered from recently and it began to tear me down. I’m one of the strongest human beings that I know but it can also be very detrimental to my health because with that everyone turns to me, which is a catch 22. While I have a fantastic skill of being a listened, over time I get fed up with people because they complain about the stupidest situations that they cause for themselves, creating drama in their own lives when they have the innate ability to stop their own environmental stresses. There’s only so much my tolerance can take before I’m like OK do something about it so when I want to reach out to someone about my problems I find it difficult because I don’t want people to think that I’m ever weak or they couldn’t count on me to be strong for them. So when I clammed up recently, the only thing I could think of at that point was to turn back to an old friend; a bottle of cool and crisp relief that seem to put a bandaid on all of my troubles and the agony i suffered from. An old alibi that when my world seems so crazy and so far-fetched I could easily just sip my problems away and deal with them in the morning. But as I fidgeted with my credit card, tempted by an old familiar friend, something in me kept me from making that decision to drink. Maybe it was my grandmother in the back of my head, saying Chris really you’re going to throw away everything to go back to your addiction when you know that’s not what you deserve.( I could literally hear the disappointment in her voice as her ghost Bounced from right ear to the left ear inside my head) or it could have been the fact that I’ve been dieting for a year-and-a-half and why would I want to blow all that time spent working toward a goal to go back to something that only made my life in actuality worse due to all the trouble I got in because of it’s tempting and devilish ways. Maybe it was the fact that everyday I motivate someone. That I get the absolutely beautiful gift of helping to inspire someone to be better themselves from rising above any bad situation and making a positive influence in their lives and to others. Or maybe, maybe it was the fact that God was there with me that night, trying to teach me a lesson. The lesson that I can easily be tempted by my past, easily be tempted by a familiarity that comforted my weary soul filling not only my stomach but my heart when it has literally empty from people but filled with torture. Whether it’s me seeing the phantoms of my past or The Willpower that has built me into the athlete and individual I am today, I left the parking lot of that Yonkers liquor store and headed the ShopRite to buy my tilapia and veggies…
One of my biggest problems that I face is I’m not very good with handling feeling weak. Unfortunately due to certain circumstances my life has presented to me I have blocked the ability to be able to shed tears and I’m not trying to sound funny by saying that. I actually cannot cry. I joke around about it and say that a situation makes me want to make me bawl my eyes out, but I don’t hold the human capability of being able to release my emotions appropriately or how any person should be able to, through tear drops falling. I have yet to figure out how to let down those walls that I have put up over years of angst so in turn I usually just stay within myself and turn to my work ethic in achieving my goal. Sadly when my life went to hell in the past 2 weeks the gym wasn’t enough and being in prep for a national-level show that pressure didn’t help the situation…. which led me to an empty parking lot in front of a liquor store that was about to close debating whether to make a life-altering decision to hold a $20 bottle in my hand and chug away my pain. The worst part about all this is I’m not even phased by alcohol anymore. I can go to a bar or I can go to a party and not be slightly tempted to indulge in the banter that’s going on around me, but it scared me to think that I could get to the point where I couldn’t reach out to someone but I could reach toward the silver slick tequila bottle. What had literally gotten me to the point of thinking that I was too strong to reach out to other people but in actuality weaker than anyone that I knew because I didn’t have the ability to be real with myself and allow my emotions to be real with me??… deep shit ehhhhh. Try dealing with all of these thoughts while you’re dieting really really hard….and just want pancakes. ..
I woke up Saturday morning and made another decision to just go hit the weights. I needed to be by myself, put on my music and hit my favorite body part, legs. I needed to exhaust my brain and body so much so that I didn’t think about the night before, that I almost gave in to what had presented itself in my life again. I was pained by the fact that I was even lured in to parking in that parking lot, still looking at that sign… still holding a credit card in my hand when I don’t have extra money to spend to buy something that would literally take away my chances at being a pro and cause a Snowball Effect to my life. I lifted my pain away which I typically do anytime that I’m feeling down, so I was back to my normal self and with the feeling of exhaustion, pain relief came. I went back home and thought to myself I need to change this. I need to make the right decision for myself… this is an opportunity in the making… obviously this didn’t break me so I need to use this type of situation to my advantage. I had the perfect opportunity to let myself go, the perfect opportunity that no one would know about; that I could keep Secret and still allow the people in my life to think I was the strongest person they know and while I questioned my strength the night before with how I deal with things, as I let the warm water of the shower fall upon my tired body I realized I’m one of the fiercest people I know. I just have a few things I need to tweak to be even better and more viable to help others and help myself in the long run.
It’s very easy to let the devil influence our daily decisions. Human temptation is upon us and with us in every action that we make and it’s not only you that will be effected in the long run from your small decision-making. It can also be your partner, your family members, the people who you influence. Everyone can be affected by your simple decisions, or what you think to be simple. We wage wars within ourselves and we all contemplate what is the best way to take… if I should make a left or right in my life and while some of us ponder the resolution more than others, you should all really be aware that every action you take has a reaction in return. What if I did take that drink on Friday night? What if I did go home and chug down that drink to ease my anxiety? Maybe I would have skipped the workout the next day to buy another bottle and maybe I wouldn’t be sober right now writing this blog. Who knows what the future could have held for me but I know in the depths of my soul that being an addict is not who I am and while it may have been who I was and it may always be a part of my life, I am more than what my past has written out for me and I will continue to push back those Temptations to make myself better for me and for anyone that comes into my life, for I take the responsibility of taking control of my destiny.
Reality is not easy. Pain and suffering in some form will attach itself to you but the decisions we make in that moment can and will affect us for the rest of our lives if you act with an emotion and not within a sane head. You can take the high road which tends to not be the easiest or you can take the low road which Maybe much simpler in the short-term but remember this: anything worth having and anything worth achieving isn’t instantaneous. So next time you have the amazing opportunity of waking up and wiping the dreams out of your eyes from the prior night, have the attitude to set yourself up for a win with every decision you make, whether it be a food choice or a new job opportunity, think before you react…be pensive, be realistic. I’m speaking from experience and you will thank me when you see the benefits in your resolution.